The Golden State Warriors got killed by the Los Angeles Lakers last Sunday. They haven’t lost much this year, and they certainly haven’t been blown out much, by such a weak opponent (sorry Lakers fans, just facts, not personal).
After the game, there was no visible outward panic, no blaming the other players, no coaches tirades – just a calm recognition that it wasn’t their day.
It reminds me of bad days I’ve had – had one last week in fact. Maybe you did too. Mine wasn’t terribly unique – stuff at work didn’t go the way we wanted, some folks got upset about stuff I was working on, my bosses weren’t excited about my performance on that item. I was angry, embarrassed, depressed, feeling inadequate on the inside, but on the outside I maintained a calm and positive demeanor with my team. None of it was their fault. I emphasized the importance of some of the work we were doing and let them know what the circumstances were, but tried my best to keep them from the emotions I felt.
And by the end of the day, dozens of things had happened – both good and bad – to make me forget those emotions anyway.
And that is just how life works. You have to lean into that, don’t fear it. Take a break, let yourself go through the healing process and then get back in the game. And even if you still aren’t feeling great, keep your outward demeanor calm and positive – it will help those around you and in a “fake it til you make it” kind of way will help you recover faster too.